How to be a successful college student? Every day we encounter different types of resistance opposing our will. This article aims to discuss the main causes that have hindered the success of most college students.
The information shared here is the result of some empirical research and also our own observation of the behavior of our young university clients.
What are the obstacles to becoming a successful college student?
In order to graduate, the university student needs some years of concentrated dedication in studies and activities related to his course. Being many disciplines, to be able to keep up with the rhythm is forced to undertake certain changes of habit.
It is not by chance that some university students gain more notoriety than others. With insight and renewed willpower, they become experts in overcoming most of the obstacles inherent in their journeys. Even the way they distinguish difficulty is different because they see it as the “driving force” of their advances ahead of the majority.
We know that healthy habits contribute effectively to the conquest of new spaces in many areas. We cite some:
- optimize the use of time;
- take care of health and avoid excesses;
- get enough sleep;
- manage physical energy so that intellectual efforts become more and more productive when reading, attending a lecture, at a conference, listening to a podcast, watching a video, producing a text.
- However, adopting such habits is not easy, at least for most. And that is why the current pattern of human potential can not be easily overcome.
Only those who act differently from this current pattern can open new horizons in their areas and become authority.
Who (or what) determines the success or failure of a college student?
Carl Jung (1875-1961), an internationally recognized Swiss psychiatrist and psychotherapist, said: “I am what I chose to become.” In this way, he states that we can choose what we want to be in life.
A priori, no one wants a miserable life for themselves. But what about those who seem to act always bringing problems to themselves and others?
One of the three laws of physics discovered by the English scientist Isaac Newton (1643-1727) is that “for every action there is always a reaction” (watch this video for a specific lesson on this law).
Although Newton’s law is based on physical actions and reactions, we can philosophically say that it is applicable to human life as well. The human being consists of a physical part (the body) and an immaterial part (the mind).
So, of course, our bodies are somehow also subject to the effects of this law. Through various physical actions we can put in motion not only physical processes, but also chemical and biological processes. Ingestion of an alcoholic beverage, for example, generates a chemical reaction in our body; a sexual relationship can generate a biological process (pregnancy). Other physical actions may even trigger mental (brain) or psychological (behavior) reactions. The consequences of our attitudes can be limiting or inspiring.
College students, because they are usually very young when they enter college, still face great instability because of hormones. In this phase physical and psychological changes occur, which will influence even the establishment of sexuality.
For this young university student, the time has come to learn how to behave as an adult, even if he is not yet an adult – all this when he takes on more responsibility for his life. This is an element that should be considered.
As you can see, we receive various types of influence every day: biological, family, cultural, political, economic, religious and so on. In this context, while some influences inspire us, others inspire us; while some frighten us, others even control us.
The successful university and its purposes
The way each person behaves in the face of this instigation of influencing forces is what determines their success or failure.
Unfortunately there is no precise formula with which we can get accurate repeats of good results indefinitely. What works for some as inspiration, for others may seem a bit tedious, or even “suffocating.” Each person has within them a specific reaction to the different situations of life. And that’s what makes every human being unique.
It is not all university students who go to university with the intention of succeeding. Many do it by one of those influences. Our tips today for the college student who wants to succeed are not innovative. They may even seem obvious. But there they go:
Do not make long-term decisions without first analyzing your real needs
For example, there are women who opt for motherhood simply because they want to satisfy an instinctive desire to hold their own baby on their lap. However, a baby will only be a baby for a few months. Would it be a thoughtful move to make that wish, despite the implications of motherhood? Do you really need this to be happy or are you being motivated by some kind of influence?
Notice what are the factors that most influence your conduct in the process of self-actualization:
After identifying these factors write them down on a sheet of paper
a) What to write for? Well, they say it helps us to strengthen our memory.
b) Inform yourself about each influence factor and try to understand how they affect you.
Some thoughts to help you identify influences:
- so as not to displease others, do you usually do something you do not like?
- to please others, you stop doing something you like?
“What do you do or do you do to please others do you good or bad?”
When you go to an unpleasant class, and someone invites you to do another “nicer” activity, remember: only you can decide if you will overcome another barrier or stay in the “comfortable” status quo. When we decide to be happy we learn to prioritize the most important things.
Seek, within yourself, the genuine source of inspiration that should guide your life.
If you want to be really happy, do not let anyone choose what your destiny should be; but also be sensible enough not to be deceived. Learn to listen to people, especially those who love you. Do not close yourself, because this attitude does not allow us to develop discernment.
On the other hand, there are people who love us so much that they want the life they wanted for themselves and they could not live …
As you become more aware of your genuine aspirations, and also of the kinds of influences that surround you, it will be easier to act and react without deviating from your goal. So you will make of your life what you really want; and you may say, like Jung, “I am what I have chosen to become.”
We wish you good choices!